What I find hardest about moving to a new place, is that it takes time to build good friendships, and it hurts to be separated from the friends you already have a depth of relationship with. Of course in time, friendship develops and I am thankful for all of the friends I now have in this country and around the world, who have shared their life with me for a time, and as a result have impacted my life.
Depth of relationship is a precious thing, to be able to talk with a friend and know what they will say before it is said - but listen anyway, to walk for an hour in silence without anything being wrong, to share the closest hopes and dreams and trust they will be taken seriously, to cry about the small things without feeling judged, to laugh until you can't remember why you started laughing, to turn up for tea in scruffy clothes and not feel awkward. To love and to be loved.
It's not easy to get to this point, some friendships naturally develop depth more quickly others take years.
However, depth of relationship only comes with time and effort, and if you have this level of friendship with someone cherish it, nurture it, protect it. If not, well take some advice from Winnie the Pooh, 'You can't stay in your corner of the forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.'
"Some friendships do not last, but some friends are more loyal than brothers."
- Proverbs 18:24
I just came across this post... I miss you. You are, in my heart, one of those people I have built a 'proper' friendship with. I miss your warmth and your kind heart. I also miss that between us we can always turn up for tea looking scruffy - and there is always tea!! :) Love you xxx
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